The short answer: EXTREMELY.
Most people find it hard to change, and change can be even harder when you are in an environment that does not support your change.
For example, when you are with other people who are all doing the same thing and have done so for a long time, you might find that they are talking about the same things all the time. This group will also develop similar beliefs of what they do, how good they are and how far they can go.
This can be positive or negative.
If we have set beliefs that are limiting, we generally voice them in our daily conversations to keep them alive and going.
I often hear people talk on behalf of someone else, saying things like:
• “Oh she doesn’t want to do that”.
• “We do things differently around here”.
• “We are not competitive, we just like to have fun”.
An individual can get swallowed up in a group and run the risk of loosing their identity.
If the group’s mentality is not to thrive for achievements, then this can easily limit the individual who might want to achieve.
“My best friend is who gets the best out of me”
Make sure you are in an environment that is right for you.
That goes for your friends, your location and your instructors. You need to be around people who understand who you are and what you want to achieve.
This goes both ways, often people are in a super competitive environment that doesn’t suit them if they aren’t driven to be competitive and look at riding as a leisurely, fun experience.
If you are thriving to achieve more, you need to have a nurturing environment that will also challenge you so you can get the best out of yourself.
You become what you think you are and the feedback you get from the people around you.
Negativity breeds negativity, and positivity breeds positivity.
What is it that you want and are you getting it?
Take a moment and consider your situation.
Most of us know exactly if we are in the right place, or if we are in a place that isn’t serving us. It is not the inability to recognize the realization of what is holding people back; it is the inability to act on making changes after the realization has been made.
So ask yourself, when it comes to your riding, is your current place where you keep your horse, the people you associate with and the instructors you have getting you to where you want to go or not?
Now that you have answered the question, what do you have to do?
If your answer is that it is time for a change, embrace the change rather then being scared of it.
What other options do you have? Where else can you go and who are the people you would like to associate with?
Take it step by step and make some notes as you go.
Most people never get that far because they have all the reasons why they can’t leave, can’t make the changes and how it wouldn’t work even if they tried.
Remember that solutions are easy as soon as you commit to taking the first step.
So design your perfect scenario and start to look for answers on how to get there. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have the answers right now, they will come as soon as you putting focus to the outcome.
Remember your potential is there; it is now time to let it out.