Tanja Mitton Australia’s No. 1 Equestrian Success and Mindset Coach
Tanja Mitton grew up in Germany with a passion for horses and show jumping. She worked and trained with a number of elite German and Austrian show jumping riders before meeting her husband Richard and moving to Australia in 1995.
While building her riding coaching business, Tanja was fascinated that many riders displayed a lack of confi dence and belief in their own ability. Tanja discovered a solution to this problem in her study of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
Now a NLP Master Coach and Practitioner, Tanja combines her unique riding instruction and NLP techniques to coach riders from Pony Club and Adult Riding to the elite level, helping the individual to identify and achieve goals by building a belief system that can support them.
If you are more interested in the science behind thoughts and feelings, I recommend the book Evolve your brain by Dr. Joe Dispenza D.C.(Doctor of Chiropractic).
Do you decide beforehand what movie you want to see when you go to the cinema?
Take a moment and imagine yourself getting ready to go to the movies. You’ve heard about this great comedy that you really want to see and now as you walk into the cinema with the ticket already in your hands there are lots of people pushing and shoving to get to their seats in time. You fi nd yourself caught up in the crowd and when you fi nally reach your seat the movie has already started. As you watch the fi rst few minutes there are shot guns going off, blood is fl owing and people screaming. You are in the wrong fi lm. You were looking forward to a comedy and you realise that you are watching a horror movie. What do you do?
Now here is another scenario. Imagine yourself getting in the car and plugging your destination address into your GPS. On your trip something happens and your GPS suddenly stops working, you are on your own. You keep driving for a while until you fi nally fi nd someone who can help you with your GPS and when it comes to life again you realise you went the wrong way. What do you do?
For most of you, answering these questions are very simple and you wouldn’t have any problems correcting your mistakes and moving on.
Suddenly for some unknown reason you hit a speed bump and you get knocked off course.
Let’s imagine a different scenario, let’s say you are preparing for your success in your riding, the showring, the dressage or jumping arena or even in your personal live. You know what it is you want to achieve, what it will look like when you have achieved it, because you have had similar successes before. Then instead of your horse going really well, something happens, you make a mistake and suddenly everything goes wrong and as a result you feel like a beginner, a failure, your horse jumps out of the ring or you forget the test, maybe the great business plan you had falls through. You know everyone was watching and you feel like an idiot. In fact you are in the wrong movie. What do you do?
Up until now you knew exactly where you were going and you had no doubt that you would get there. You felt confi dent and certain to reach your success and it seemed like nothing could stand in your way. It was a smooth road ahead and you enjoyed every minute of your ride with plenty of great feedback. Suddenly for some unknown reason you hit a speed bump and you get knocked off course. It feels like you are going the wrong way but everywhere you turn seems to be the wrong way. You’ve lost your way without knowing how to get back. What do you do?
See the thing is; it’s easy to end up in the wrong movie and the longer we stay there the more of the same movie we attract. For example when loading your horse, if you are already stuck in the movie of your horse not getting onto the fl oat and you are panicking on missing out on your clinic or competition you will get more of the same movie. If you are going into a lesson and already playing a movie how everything is going wrong, you will get more of the same movie. Make sure you know what movie it is you want to see and if you fi nd you are starting to focus on anything less, it’s time to get off your seat and change the theatre. Sometimes we all get stuck but at the end it is your choice if you stay sitting or if you get up and change seats.
When you are getting lost and it seems like you don’t know where to go rather than going along the wrong road it’s better to stop and ask for help. It doesn’t matter how far lost you are with the right GPS you can always fi nd your way back.
Put yourself back in the driver’s seat and take your life in your own hands. You have the ability to do whatever it is you want to do as long as you take action.